Undressing Her or Him
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Posted:Mar 7, 2015 11:07 pm
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2015 1:29 pm
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Undressing is a neglected part of sex too often. There is more to it than just slipping out of clothes and tossing them aside, though when it is urgent enough that is hot as well.
For whatever reason it always seems to be hotter when one partner is naked and the other dressed.
But undressing can also be an act of seduction, deliberate, slow, sensual, and full of anticipation, promise, and barely constrained desire. Sometimes it may be your partner undressing for you, and sometimes it is you undressing them.
It's one part of foreplay men enjoy as much as women, and with the right mood, light, and atmosphere it plays all sorts of interesting mind games.
For some reason most of the women in my life didn't wear much underwear, but all of them wore it to have it removed at times.
There is nothing quite like the soft whisper of a pair of panties sliding down a woman's hips and legs to start the long slow build up to ultimate release.
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Threesome Poll Results
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Posted:Mar 4, 2015 4:46 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2015 12:07 pm
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In a recent poll on threesomes I asked what kind of threesome, if any, men or women would participate in. FFM with straight or bi play and FMM with straight or bi play.
The results for women were what I expected, More women would participate in one with bi play with another woman and one with bi play between two men. No one voted for strictly straight with another woman, but that wasn't surprising since if a woman is going to be in a threesome a lesbian or even bi male element is often the fantasy behind it.
What did surprise me was the male response.
By a margin of three to one men said they would participate in a threesome with another man where they had bi-sexual activity.
That may be a bit skewered by doing the poll on here. That said, three to one is fairly high odds. You would definitely bet on a favored to win by three to one.
Polls are anonymous so people feel safer to say things they might not admit to in a forum where they are identified.
I do think this represents a generational change in sexual mores though.
If you go on any casual contact site, like Craigslist for men looking for men, you will notice there are more married men looking for a bi experience than gay men looking to meet. Gay men can meet each other more openly, while married men are more proscribed, though many indicate their wives know and have no problem and discretion is a result of their work or other family. Some are old hands, many list themselves as bi-curious and new to it.
All of them have one thing in common: they are not getting sex otherwise, and this is the only way they can without endangering their marriage, family, work, and life in general.
I'm not making any big judgment about this. Nothing profound. I do not think this suggests most men are latent homosexuals or bi-sexual. I think it does suggest many men in todays society are more open about things that were not easy to act on in previous generations.
This is a non issue with many younger straight men in today's society. The men discussed here are in their mid thirties and up, a generation much less sexually open.
These aren't men looking to leave their wives, and, as I said, many of them say they are doing this with their wives knowledge, It seems to be an outlet not only for fantasy but for sex in marriages that are no longer sexual. Most of the men appear to be middle aged and up, and if you read their profiles the implication is this is a sexual outlet their wives approve of, at least tacitly, where they would not approve of another woman or women.
Men are not suddenly going gay in middle age. These men are not true bi-sexuals, they are not looking for relationships beyond an FB with other men. They are exploring sexual outlets not available when they were younger, and they are having sexual contact and adventures with no threat of emotional involvement and little risk of divorce. Guys won't call them at home and hang up if the wife answers or demand they leave their wives and marry them. In the gay community casual sex between men, even men in committed gay relationships, is still common. It is an outlet not as easily available in heterosexual relationships as it might seem on here.
Another man won't get pregnant or want a ring.
For straight men looking at their sex lives being proscribed or non-existent for the rest of their lives short of shattering their otherwise content and happy lives this seems to be an ideal out.
I would not seek an outside sexual outlet in a committed relationship with a woman. That's just me, I make no judgment on anyone who does.
That said, when my third wife died I knew that I was doomed to celibacy for at least two years because women will not date a widower under sixty who has not gone through at least two years of mourning. You may argue this all you want, I lost my first wife, and went through this strictly enforced heterosexual isolation. Women will not look at you seriously in that period. In fact a man under sixty recovering from grief is a virtual leper with women in our society. They would much prefer you were cheating on a living wife and family. They will date and have sex with a cheat, not a widower.
The better your relationship was with your late wife the deeper they isolate you.
I wasn't ready for another two years of life in sexual limbo because women sent me to the sexual leper colony for two years. I decided to explore my bi-side. I was lucky to meet some nice people early on who --- for lack of a better word --- mentored me through the process. I lived a few fantasies and I made a few friends. I also learned that far and away most of the men I met were married straight guys who wanted sexual variety and were generally in marriages where the wife had shut down their sex life. Some of them only played with other married men. I did not meet a single person who was a true bi-sexual. The majority of the men were not bi-sexual, but heteroflexible.
The sex was enjoyable as sex and release. It was not emotionally satisfying, but it was human contact and fantasy and far more satisfying than masturbation.
Currently I am in neither group and would much prefer to be in a committed relationship with a woman.
I would not do it if I was in a heterosexual relationship, I will not when I am in a position to date again, but rather than go without because women my age don't want sex or sexuality I would not spend the rest of my life celibate either. I would far and away prefer to meet and be with a woman in my general age range, but I do not want a relationship that consists of bingo, a senior center, and no sex. Maybe at 90 I'll be content with holding hands, but not now.
I don't think this has anything to do with either sex being gay, bi, or straight.. I think it has to do with a new social phenomena where men in particular, who in the past either cheated with other women or went to prostitutes, have found an outlet to have adventurous and exotic sex with little risk to their family life , career, and reputation. Cheating men still cheat and hide it, but this is something different.
Adventurous as this may seem it is actually safe sex, or as safe as casual sex can be these days. Precautions are the rule not the exception. Nothing is as safe as sex in a committed relationship, but that is not always available, and increasingly men at least are choosing not to be in enforced celibacy. This isn't bathhouse or glory hole sex, it's much more middle to upper middle class than that. Most of the men seem to be white collar professionals.
Bi-sexual fantasy in either sex is not unusual, and never has been. Victorian erotica and early erotic films show a much more casual and open attitude to bi sexual activity for men and women that our society would like to believe our ancestors indulged in. Early French films made for houses of frequently showed casual male bi sexual behavior as if it were an everyday part of sex.
The men responding they would indulge in bi sexual play with another man are not secretly gay nor are they going to turn that way. I do think though this is not about gay men anymore than women who responded they were bi-curious is necessarily lesbian in nature.
Understand I am not blaming women. Women's bodies make more radical changes sexually than men's do. Society had changed in this regard because people didn't live long enough in the past for this to be a problem for them. Frankly for many women sex is so unsatisfying for physical, emotional, and psychological reasons at any age no one could blame them for turning from it, but the fact remains that bi sexual behavior is becoming a more common outlet for straight men who have no or only limited sexual outlets at home for whatever reason.
There are still men and women who are strictly heterosexual and have no fantasy or bi experience or any desire for it, but there are a growing number of men and women in the gray middle who are not bi sexual, and in the case of many of the men it is the only sexual outlet they have that doesn't threaten their present life.
And some of it is as simple as our ape brain ever curious, horny, and not very discretionary, especially in the male. Men without sexual outlets will seek them out. Women will as well, but in evolutionary terms its more an imperative for men.
Something interesting is happening that the keepers of morality and sexual mores have ignored and frankly have no desire to deal with. This is by no means a majority of men. but it is a significant minority, and I suspect as the current generation ages changes will become more noticeable. It may be one of those generational events that happen once in a while.
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HNW Out-takes or Gone to my head.
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Posted:Mar 3, 2015 9:52 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2015 6:25 am
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Warning Member Cock Photos
If you find these offensive please stop here.
I am not posting these to show it off. These are lousy pictures of a terrible subject. and one isn't even in focus.
Never-the-less, they do demonstrate a point I have made to a few of you elsewhere.
This is why I never have had and likely never will have anal sex with any woman.
To quote an uncle of mine, ain't no way!
He has come in pretty handy in vaginal sex, but anal --- doesn't seem likely does it?
Not that I blame anyone. I'd likely say no pretty loudly myself.
And, I should point out, it's not erect. I had a headache, or he had a headache, which ever one of us has the bigger head.
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The Bang Gang
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Posted:Mar 3, 2015 3:46 pm
Last Updated:Mar 3, 2015 10:47 pm
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This is neither a commentary or a question, just an observation.
By the eighties and nineties those papers and magazines designed for swinging were pretty common, and no longer restricted to just a small group. Some had wide subscriber lists from all over the world and while many of the ads were couples seeking other couples or singles for swinging there was another category that isn't talked about much.
The Gang Bang.
These adds usually went the same general way. A woman, usually married, was looking for multiple men (usually with '9 inch cocks' to have sex with in front of her husband. At times these ads actually outnumbered the ads for couples.
The other day I ran across a site that was devoted to women who had sex with other men in front of their husbands, I saw nothing about '9 inch cocks' but women today may be a bit more savvy about such things and not limiting their potential to such a small pool. Mostly it was women with teasing and humiliating comments to the hubby about how they had sex with another man and does it now turn him on.
I can understand the female side of this, sex is sex, and a bit of exhibitionism isn't unusual, but I'm not sure I get the male side. Participating with another man or the men in the mix maybe, even men with bigger cocks, but just watching your partner have sex with other men? I don't really get it.
I'm not condemning, just saying I don't get it.
I've been in threesomes when my partner took a break and watched, but she wasn't seated across the room in the loge seats watching us with popcorn and candy.
Assuming these sites are halfway honest and not just come-ons, this seems to be a fairly common male and female fantasy, but I wonder if it is one fulfilled often, or just a fantasy.
I can see women fantasizing about a Gang Bang. Humans will fantasize about anything when they are trying to get off and alone with that nasty little part of the brain all of us have that lets the Id get the best of the libido and goes where ever it takes.
And I know women who attend swingers groups do this more often within the group, but I'm talking about virtual strangers. I wonder how many women fantasizing about this are actually thinking or planning to do it with more or less anonymous men they won't see again, and how many want hubby to watch?
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Full Body Orgasm
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Posted:Mar 2, 2015 12:25 pm
Last Updated:Mar 7, 2015 4:21 pm
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There are all sorts of orgasms that women can have from the most common, clitoral, to vaginal from intercourse or digital stimulation, to blended (clitoral and vaginal together), to ejaculation, squirting, ESO (Extended Sexual Orgasm). and the Hour Long Orgasm, even anal orgasm. There are small, hard, big, fast, slow --- you name it some woman has had one.
And then there is the Full Body Orgasm.
Full Body Orgasm is when a woman experiences clitoral, vaginal, and anal orgasm at the same time. Having never had one I can only recount what partners who did described and how I saw and felt them relax.
It's most likely to occur when the male is providing oral stimulation to the clitoris, and digital stimulation to the G-spot and ass at the same time. It usually follows a fairly long period of oral play to the point where she is on the edge of orgasm and easily ready to go over. Many women are very wet at that point and since fluid runs south usually the opening of the anus will be well lubed.
Depending on how she feels about anal touch (some women, even some porn stars do not want to be touched there under any condition and that has to be respected) it's usually easy at this point to gently insert a single finger and begin to gently move it in and out as you continue to orally stimulate her clitoris, and palpitate her G-spot.
She likely isn't going to push your hand away at this point since she is very close to orgasm and any additional stimulation short of pain is welcome.
There are a hundred things you might notice, but the one's I have seen most often with partners are the nipples become extremely turgid and the breasts themselves may swell and become firmer. By this point she is often panting, arching her body toward your mouth and pushing down to force more contact with both the vaginal and anal digits.
Contractions of the stomach muscle begin, and in some women are visible as if a belly dancer was rolling and contracting them. Inside the vagina the grip will become very tight, sometimes virtually cutting off circulation to the fingers with the same happening to the finger (or fingers depending on her preference) in her ass.
This is usually followed by a milking motion of vaginal and anal walls the way some women consciously flex their vaginal muscles to stimulate an erect penis inside of them.
The orgasm is quite spectacular. I've had partners arch so hard nothing but the back of their head and heels were touching the bed, and lifting my head with their hips and pelvis. Some women grab your head, some shred the sheets, some grab their own breasts and twist their own nipples. Those who can often ejaculate.
This lasts a bit longer than the usual orgasm, but the really noticeable thing is the intensity. My second wife described as feeling as if beams of light like lasers were shooting from her vagina, ass, fingertips, toes, and eyes. My first described it as being like a seismic shock that began in her spine and traveled through her vagina and ass then flashed throughout her body.
Every partner has reported that jolt of energy from the spine spreading through the body.
One note to men, should you be lucky enough to have a partner who allows you to do this and who responds to it, she needs to be held immediately afterword or the experience can go sour. Don't get up and go for a warm wash cloth or towel, Stay with her until she comes out.
I frankly love that women can have such a variety of orgasmic experiences and delight in a responsive partner who likes to explore them all.
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Blue Nude
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Posted:Mar 1, 2015 2:31 pm
Last Updated:Mar 2, 2015 11:27 am
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The novel, Blue Nude by Elizabeth Rosner is perhaps the finest evocation of the relationship between artist and model I have ever read:
Dimensions, he (the artist) thinks, that's what she has. Space between her features, her breasts, long arms and legs and her torso...Just a pure unveiled being.
By their nature artists have a selfish and self possessed side, It would be difficult to be an artist without one. Those who love them resign themselves to those self contained moments. Most artists wives pose for them, many exclusively, because the nature of the artist relationship to the model is that many artists sleep with their models at least once, the bohemian lifestyle of artist Norman Douglas portrayed in the film Sirens with Hugh Grant, Sam Neill, and a bevy of naked models is not exaggerated. It's not true for all artists, but more than you might think.
Angela was my first wife Angelique's, grandmother, still attractive when I knew her. Angelique's grandfather was a bit of an old rogue. An adventurer he frankly married her for her money when she was 14, the of the owner of a large colonial trading firm then living in Ethiopia.
As a young woman with a living in France in the early thirties she grew tired of his affairs and left the chateau to live in Paris and work as a mannequin. In addition to modeling for Chanel she also posed nude for Pablo Picasso and became his lover for a brief time. Her husband recognized that much to his surprise he loved her money or not and they were reunited, and he quietly bought the painting for his own private collection.
When Angelique showed the painting to me she informed me it was from her Grand-Pere's "Blue Period."
But it illustrates my point. So when you look at a painting also look at the model. She is more than just a subject, more than an object for the interplay of shadow, light, and color. Artists know this, most of us posed for life drawing class, if we looked half decent nude in a posing strap when younger, at the insistence of an instructor who wanted us to experience what the model contributed.
Some of us admit it. Whatever skill, ability, and vision the artist has, it means nothing if he cannot find it in his model.
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Housework on HNW
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Posted:Feb 25, 2015 3:16 pm
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2015 2:35 pm
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A tidy kitchen in always important.
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Sexy
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Posted:Feb 24, 2015 2:14 pm
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2015 1:32 pm
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Just some pictures today.
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Peg-O-My Heart
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Posted:Feb 22, 2015 8:21 pm
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2015 1:59 pm
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Some women and some men don't get this and it is fine, not all those who do are into S&M, and it isn't a man showing a gay side. It's become a form of play for many couples; a way men can sometimes cum without touching themselves, a way women can experience what it is like to have a cock --- or as close as they can.
It's often very freeing for both sexes. Men seldom have sex where their erection isn't required and they are the object or on the receiving end. It's a bit like being the catcher when you have always been the pitcher.
It lets something go in some women, a sexual side they usually suppress; a sexual aggression they might not express anywhere else.
The only reason to do it is if you enjoy it or think you will. There is nothing particularly profound about a man getting fucked by a woman or a woman fucking a man, but it can give you a little insight and hopefully some fun and not discomfort.
It won't fix anything, but it shouldn't break anything either other than a few barriers and limits.
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Good Morning World
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Posted:Feb 19, 2015 6:41 pm
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2015 2:40 pm
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All I can think of is my first wife, Angelique, hanging off the balcony of our flat waving good morning to the parish priest on his rounds. He always waved back
Have you ever had anyone in your life, including yourself, who was totally uninhibited?
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A Hottie
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Posted:Feb 17, 2015 6:12 pm
Last Updated:Feb 19, 2015 6:11 pm
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I understand this is very erotic, and done right not all that painful, but you have to wonder who was the first person to wonder if hot wax would feel good. Pouring it on yourself though seems a bit over the top.
(assuming this stays up, its a Gif showing a woman pouring hot wax on her thigh, with dried hot wax on her stomach.
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