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Menage a How?
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Menage a How? Three is my favorite number!  I have great admiration for a few of my couple friends because they will play around with a third (women only). These are couples that have been together for many years. They are couples who are always happy - happy in life and completely happy with each other. They are couples who perhaps you wouldn't guess could possibly be into such things. They are couples that are so completely open, honest, comfortable, and respectful of each other that they CAN bring another person to bed with them and it's all good. THAT is why I have such admiration for them - they don't hide anything from one another. I often wonder if I could do that - invite a third person into the bedroom, I mean. I have been the invitee several times, but I imagine it's a whole different ballgame (pun intended!) as part of the couple rather than the third. All of the obvious threesome discussion topics aside, here's what I am interested in: how does a couple go about finding a third? Is it a well planned out operation that goes into effect on a random Tuesday night? Do you simply approach an attractive gal at the bar? How do you broach the subject with someone you don't know? Couples: What are your pick-up strategies? Single Ladies & Gents: Have you ever been invited to a threesome? How? Set the scene for me - I want to feel like I was there! |
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This is a couple-dependent question. It's sort of like your style of flirting and dating. Some seem rather strict about who, what, where, and when while others go about it more like 'Where should we eat tonight?" Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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I have not been involved in this situation - on either end. Not for lack of trying mind you; it was a lack of interest from others. It seems to me that couple are looking for females as a rule which leave me out or the guy is bi which I'm not. With the right partners, I think I would be into it, but I think the trick is finding the right partners. “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” ― Oscar Wilde
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This is a couple-dependent question. It's sort of like your style of flirting and dating. Some seem rather strict about who, what, where, and when while others go about it more like 'Where should we eat tonight?"
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I think you´re right about the lust-love thing, and I get it. I understand why the two are often so intermingled that they seem to be the same thing. Once the two have merged in your mind, it is very difficult to pull them back apart. To be honest, I think that is the reason I am a bit hesitant to agree to or offer up a threesome with any guy I may be seeing. I am completely willing to have a threesome, but I need to feel and know that me and my guy ARE me and my guy without question first.
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We agree with essentrick's comment's above, although we are not looking for the male companion, and have not yet had our threeway, but are both ready and excited for it. One more deciding factor (in favor of adding a woman into our bed) was the fact that, prior to our relationship, my wife had aready experienced a great deal of pleasure at the hands (and other beautiful parts) of another woman. At that time, she was with another man. Though the bi-sexual affair continued, it was NOT concealed from her male mate, who was not involved in the females' couplings by choice - though he enjoyed watching, and their relationship was not adversely affected because they remained open and communicated about boundaries.
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Just as some are born homosexual, others are not. The fact is - I am not sexually attracted to males. My wife is attracted to some females. It is a fact that there are obvious inherent gender-specific differences between men and women, and some couples will not be interested in sharing their sex life with both genders (I suppose this can go both ways). Once my wife explained how much she enjoyed her experiences, I allowed myself to consider the reality of a three-way tryst. I explained to her that I could not be comfortable with a complete couple on couple experience, and admitted I knew it may be selfish to continue with a three-way while not widening my boundaries, and told her that this was not something critical to our relationship, but she insisted that she agreed with me, and that she wanted to share the pleasure two women can have (normally a uniquely female creation) with me. Of course I am privileged to have a terrific wife, and our sex life is already fantastic (we still think we have something magical ten years in), and we are both looking forward to our next adventure. Another plus is we get to share it with someone else, too!
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