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maybe.....maybe not
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maybe.....maybe not Well yesterday I did nearly hit the delete profile button. Though surprisingly nothing to do with the PEFH (pyscho ex from hell). Completely unrelated, I get an e-mail on another more traditional site, my heart had already sank a little bit when I saw it was from a repeat mailer to whom I've never replied. It included a reference to my username on here, given the apprehension I've already got with the PEFH, that raised my hackles even more. Blocked him and was repeatedly thinking take the hint I'm not interested and wondered why he thought it appropriate to make that point. I'm not going to instantly change my mind because hes on here to. If I was interested I would of replied to the first message. Its also made me somewhat happier that I've changed my profile pic, as in complete honesty this isn't the first time the connection has been made. But its never bothered me until now. Maybe it was how he wrote it, maybe I just finally got annoyed with the repeat messages and that just pushed me over the edge. Maybe its just because I haven't got a bloody clue as to who he is on here. Think I should try and find him or maybe not I do have better things to do. |
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11/4/2011 2:38 pm |
I'm hear to tell you most of us here has had a PEFH at some point in our life....God knows I've had 3 or 4 already...mine still stalkes me everyday, it almost feels like I'm still married...  Have fun and enjoy your time here and don't let him get you down...  It's my story and I'm sticking to it... 
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I think you've done all the right things. You've made your profile here more anonymous, and also added plausible deniability - there's no longer a tie between "you" here and "you" anywhere else. If the worst comes to the worst you can just deny that you have anything to do with Passion. Though it probably won't get that far because for anyone to out you they'd have to out themselves... and you can always call their bluff.
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I can't see anything can be achieved by tracking him down on here. You're doing the right thing in this case by doing nothing. The advice from a psychological perspective with any form of stalker is never respond in any way as they feed off any reaction they get from you, be it a polite request or agressive slap down. The theory being if they get nothing from you in the way of response they get bored and go bother somebody else. I sent you an email in response to your last post re PEFH if you want to have a look. One other suggestion which was made to me and proved correct in my case is not to delete your profile but switch it off if it comes to it. Then if you want to return you still have your stuff intact and don't have to start again. I was going to delete when I got sick of some shit on here but was glad I only switched off.
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11/4/2011 4:24 pm |
Can't believe how much this has affected you... going from a confident person, not afraid to show who you are to deleting all your pics and almost deleting your profile... shit.
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Repeated emails from someone who you are not interested in can be pretty annoying. I'm glad you decided to stay on here, and as the others have said, you've done the right thing by making your profile annonymous.
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Let sleeping dogs lie! I don't think it'll be of much use to uncover him actually; I thought you already knew who he was.... I would, however, go about the daily grind as usual, and not give him any additional thought till warranted.
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1 post 4/7/2012 3:27 am |
I have found in the past that blocking and trying to forget is the best policy when someone gets too keen shall we say?
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