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Safety must come first.
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Safety must come first. Recently I have been speaking to a man, I would say gentleman but hes proved he is anything but that!! Everything seemed to be going well, and we were arranging a meeting. The picture should give you a clue as to the rest of the story.  In one of my first texts to him I said that the first meet would just be for drinks. Didn't explain why, possibly and foolishly because I thought he would understand why. His reply didn't question it anyway. However, as we continue texting it becomes clear to me that he didn't understand why it would be drinks only. Hotels and discrete locations were mentioned. So this time I gave him the shortened explanation. This is the longer one. Firstly, and as my profile says I also need to have the mental attraction. You can gauge a lot from written word but I can gauge a lot more from spoken words. I have experienced this pitfall before, true I did fuck him anyway. At least I didn't have to talk to him then. But the main reason why is to make sure that we both are who we say we are and both not dodgy psychos. Safety is paramount and important to me, I've done some dumb shit in the past but jeopardising my safety isn't one of them. I have had to do a runner in the past and I do not what to be in position again. My friend who recommended this site to me always knows where I am so she knows where to go if I don't report back that all is ok. Bloody love her I do! My car is always parked in a prime position just in case I need to do a quick get away. Quite reasonable you'd think, but as you've possibly guessed. I haven't heard from him since. I'm amazed that he dosen't understand the principles behind a pre-meet. A mans safety is just as important as a womans, for all he knows I could be a big 20stone man whos planning to bugger him senseless. I'm also wondering if it may be an age thing, as he is younger than me. Do the younger generation just want to fuck and go? There is one thing I know for sure though, its definately not my loss...... |
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At least he showed his true colours before wasting too much of your time. Having said that though, I'm sure a true psychopath (rather than just a dick) would quite happily meet you in a public place and be more than charming 
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9/29/2011 5:38 pm |
Good that he went away..better to stay away from people who dont get the basics...No shortage of men so dont worry 
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9/29/2011 7:00 pm |
guys like that are just too cheap or chicken to buy a professional.they want their needs met with no effort on their part .like mommie did for them .God please help them grow up . i feel so sorry for younger women ,they have such poor ass choices .i wish you the best dealing with the worst americas moms have to offer you.
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"Firstly, and as my profile says I also need to have the mental attraction. You can gauge a lot from written word but I can gauge a lot more from spoken words. I have experienced this pitfall before, true I did fuck him anyway. At least I didn't have to talk to him then. " I love your posts MissB. Who were you referring to here? I have been invited to a girls house, only to request that that we meet in public first. Passion is a site only, human beings post here. All kinds of people post. There is no one kind of person here. We are not AFFers. As with everything, it takes all kinds. i think your plans are wise!! Keep safe! remember there are those batteries. kisses
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If he doesn't understand your need for safety then it is defiantly not your loss. Nothing you mentioned seems at all unreasonable to me.
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Ever since I have been here, my profile has always said "I'm not really looking to meet someone" although I also say that I wouldn't completely rule it out. As a result, through just blogging, and sometimes getting into email exchanges, I have got to know a few people really well, sometimes leading to extensive IM and telephone conversations. I have found that once I get to that stage it is very easy to judge whether I would be able to trust someone. I have made some close friendships and even fallen in love a couple of times, at which point the mental connection is so strong that I have no doubt meeting would have been safe and wonderful. Sadly on both occasions, for a variety of reasons it never happened. What I am trying to say is that because of my self imposed not meeting rule, I have found that taking time to get to know someone on line first is rewarded with a genuine connection and understanding, and anyone who isn't willing to go through that process, to my mind, can't be worth meeting.
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10/11/2011 5:57 am |
like the majority of people here, i definitely think its his loss. Safety should be the most important factor to consider (i certainly wouldnt want 'a big 20stone man whos planning to bugger me senseless' showing up at wherever we decided to meet). And theres got to be some connection right?? .. as palsforfun says surely its better to be with an 'average, funny, polite, respectful, nice guy over a drop-dead gorgeous jerk'?? definately reassuring to think so anyway!! The guys just giving all us younger blokes a bad name, take no notice and stand reassured that there are plenty of guys out there (including myself) who would willingly show you the respect for your wishes that you deserve. x
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I completely agree about the man's safety. I have been meeting couples for a while now - not recently though...curses! . I am always very nervous and the last time, I had a complete change of clothes in my car, the key left on the top of the wheel, just in case my greatest fear were to occur - being chucked out hubby, naked! I usually leave my clothes in the hallway by the front door.. Even with single ladies there is a risk to meeting. Men probably forget this when the sap is rising..
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Safety is paramount , Lies , bull shit ,no shows, Fantasists are annoying but not harmful . Having your body lifeless in a ditch is not. I have rules: No face picture on your profile - this may cause all sorts of complications I have no wish to be recognised by someone in an important meeting and suffer for it . ( I noted from your profile you required a face picture I always send one by email directly after contact not that anyone contacts me ! ) . Never disclose a Telephone number, contact information or private email address . Meet first in a well populated area and if possible text the number of the car to a friend.
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