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Sex expected??? I am curious as to know where it is written that sex is expected on the first date?? To me i would rather get to know the man as a person first. To see what makes him tick. I know all about sex. That is almost a given. But what i am interested in knowing is what their likes are, their dislikes, their turn ons as well as just getting to them them more on a personal basis. I believe if it is based solely on sex the relationship will never last. I have been speaking with a man from Virginia for over a year now. He knows me more than anyone else does. Why is this?? Because he took the time to get to know me as a woman. And i am sure we will meet one day. That is how it should be. A man should want to get to know what is between the ears rather than the legs of a woman. Not just hop in the sack, do the act, and then go their seperate ways. This is what i perceive as a good relationship. I want to know all about the person i am persuing. Get inside of his brain. Learn about each other. Is this a lost art?? Getting to know each other before the physical act of sex. I rather call it making love when we get to this point. Just my two bits!!!   ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much.. |
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I really like how you think...it's real...hope hear from u soon.
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There are all types of people out there. NSA and relationship seekers are just two of dozens of options. Yes getting to know a person leads to better sex/lovemaking. Wants, needs, desires, fantasies and real life discussions can bring two people closer then a few BS lines tossed out there. Take your time. Really know a person. Know what you and your potential mate want before going there. Give it up on your terms. Happy hunting.
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I agree 95% of the time when I met a girl and we had sex on the first date the relationship never lasted.
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I agree. AB No Bozos
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I so agree. I'm not here to get laid. I want to know a person first. I'm not a just have sex girl. Personality increases the attraction factor.
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Thank You ALL for you comments. Especially the one who said 95% of relationships just having to do with sex does not last. Well i am glad i am not the only one who wants more than a quick lay in the sack. Happy Black Friday to those from the usa and TGIF for the rest of us!!! ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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SexyTigress, I have been divorced for 6 years and during that time I have wanted both long-term relationships and NSA . FWBs, depending on how busy my life is and if I need a break emotionally from dating after a relationship break up. The people who touch my life are important and I dont take their emotions lightly. I still believe in living life with honour and integrity as a man and not just by my dick... However, some women are "relationship material" and some are mere sex toys for fun adventures. I can pretty good at assessing what any woman is going to be by how I feel about her during the first meeting or by where our chats online have gone before meeting. Important Rule: Any woman who cannot kiss sensually is neither - a bad kisser is a complete waste of time for sex or a relationship because she will be bad in bed regardlss. A bad good night kiss is the kiss of death If I want a relationship, I walk the walk. I have "a 5 date rule" which means I dont want any kind of sex until we have gone on 5 date because I believe sex early on screws up relationships if it happens too quickly. Actually stating I wont have sex until after 5 dates to a woman builds a great deal of trust and intimacy because she sees I actually want to get to know her and build foundation before being physical. It has always ensured I have had amazing relationship and great sex. If I want a NSA or FWB relationship, I will state it outright also. Being very bold and confident man allows me to just look a woman in the eyes and tell them what I want to do to them. I will usually tell them I want them to go to the washroom to remove their panties and hand them to me when they return to the table. Most women that kind of sexual confidence very sexy and arousing... So, there is no reason to play games. As a man, you now know how to play the game to get either outcome without toying with anyone's emotions. DS Arouse the mind, then the body follows eagerly... Blog: The Erotic Art of Sensual Domination [blog Dom]       
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I so agree Dominant Soul about the five date before sex. But unfortunately most men would not give me half a day to wait 5 dates before sex. They expect it right away. And i tend to shy away from those types of men. Thanks for leaving that message. charmer.... i wish more men felt like you do. I think what really is missing is love, affection, tenderness and interity. Without these in a relationship you are almost doomed for failure. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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SF I so wish the men in my area thought the same way.
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Hey Tigger. I suspect you have tried nonsex sites.I know you blog herre to a group of supportive people . Probably when you least expect it that guy will come along and sweep you off your feet.Good luck
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Thanks for being my friend sf native. What you said made so much sense and thank you for your wisdom and sincerity!!! Sweetme...i agree 100% with you!!! Justforfun....i know this is true. Thanks for sharing. EasyRancher...i have been on POF, LavaLife. And most men are looking just for easy sex. Here at least i am able to blog about my feelings and my daily encounters. Have a good weekend. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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I don't have the expectations.....each situation is unique to itself anf I simply flow with where itsg oing.... Click Here To Read A Hot Erotic Story: When A Woman Meets A Stranger Part 1 of 4
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LOL...no Bradley Cooper is not the sexiest man alive!!! To me it is Antonio Bandares. to Ironman!!!!! ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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I so agree Dominant Soul about the five date before sex. But unfortunately most men would not give me half a day to wait 5 dates before sex. They expect it right away. And i tend to shy away from those types of men. Thanks for leaving that message. charmer.... i wish more men felt like you do. I think what really is missing is love, affection, tenderness and interity. Without these in a relationship you are almost doomed for failure. I suspect most men you are meeting dont appreciated how to truly unleash the vixen inside every woman. They are looking for easy sluts, not relationships. However, every woman can be a vixen. There is a hierachy of needs that needs to be fulfilled. These men have only experienced hot sex one-time with meaningless conquests or short sex-focused affairs rather than the deep passion and intimacy of a woman who is deeply emotionally connected and deeply trusting of her partner. Then she is able to be completely uninhibited and free to express her full sexuality within the safety of a trusted long-term relationship. If men realized how to make a woman feel respected, appreciated and cherished was the real path to hot sex, there would be a lot more happy relationships. It is not just about romance but of caring and thoughtfulness about how she feels and making her feel beautiful, sexy and loved. A man who can ease the workload and stresses in a woman's life will be happily rewarded with crazy hot sex that comes deep from the heart. DS Arouse the mind, then the body follows eagerly... Blog: The Erotic Art of Sensual Domination [blog Dom]
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I so agree. Any one who knows a bit of Pyschology would not Maslow's Hierachy of needs. Love is the third from the top of the pyramid. And i so agree with the vixen in every woman. Many men have no clue how to bring it out. Very few do. I am not an easy slut (as you can tell from my blogs). I am waiting for that special relationship that shows me the man truly cares for me on all levels....not just the sexual one. Every man and woman need sex. It is built inside of us. It is what we do with it that determines our fate. Either be a lose woman or one with class. I tend to lean towards the latter. Thank You for stopping in and commenting on my blog. Much appreciated Dominant Soul. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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TheSexyTigress, In line with Maslow, I think there is a sexual hierachy for women. - Uninhibited Sexual Expression - Sexual and Emotional Intimacy - Appreciation & Respect - Emotional Connection - Trust & Safety - Mutual Chemistry - Physical Attraction If men actually took the time to fulfill al the emotional needs of a partner, they would be rewarded with deep and meaningful sexual expression based on deep intimacy... Here is a blog I wrote years ago which you may find interesting: [post 2347760] Take Care, DS Arouse the mind, then the body follows eagerly... Blog: The Erotic Art of Sensual Domination [blog Dom]
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1 post 11/26/2011 12:30 pm |
A question that has become an evergreen in the 60'ies... A short answer from my originally protestant – since high school agnostic and pragmatic background – is no. Sex should not be expected and really cannot be expected the first time a man meets the woman he is interested in. The man will in a way or another propose – to get a chanceto get in the company of the woman. If the man is even a little bit succesful, what will follow is the build-up of the excitement and the prospect of a great adventure. Expecting sex, let alone sharing that with the object of the desire, the woman, would just destroy the tension which in the case the man getting lucky will lead to the intensity of the sexual and mental discovery lasting the first years at least of a good relationship which eventually supposedly is the goal in mind. The man, on the other hand, can and most often will hope for the sex from the beginning. A the end of the day, whether or when the dream will be fulfilled is not the man' business. It is the woman who invites the man in her company. Just based on my experience. Outruling sex for five or ten or thirty dates is not how I see it having worked either. It happens at the lady's will when it happens. The main thing is that there is ”more to the picture than meets the eye” to start with...
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I hear what you are saying 58fun2u. However once the sex is over both go their seperatee ways and i believe they are left with nothing but a great sexual experience. Dont get me wrong. I love sex but there has to be more than just that physical act. And i agree with these arranged marriages where either knew each other before their wedding night. Passion had to be developed and therefore it was lasting. In response to mitsislet....i totally agree with you about the anticipation and excitement of being toghether sexually after a courtship has been established. But how often does this occur?? Not very often anymore. And i totally agree that is should be the woman inviting the man into her life bases around sex. It should never be demanded on first date. In my eyes that just shows the true colours of the man himself. He is selfish and is inconsiderate to how the woman feels. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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SexyTigress, Usually I'm not a blog reader but yours has stood out and you have involved lots of quality interaction. Its great to be mentally stimulated and get a good "hard on" with the head on top of the shoulders and not just the one b/wn the balls! Good luck in your efforts to find that quality gentlemen that you desire. We are out here! I would be reminisce to not congratulate you on your loss of weight and yet those lovely boobs look just as bodacious! Also your profile is what should be required of newcummers (pardon the pun) to say this a shining example of what would be beneficial for those of us posting and looking!!
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Thank You so very much for the compliments on my blog and my responses to everyone who responds. It is only polite to answer when someone responds. To me anyways!!!! I agree sex is more then the little head. Not making light of your comment. I like to see life as fun.Thank You also for the compliment on my profile. I guess that is me. I would never lie and make it seem sugar coated. All my real friends would attest to me being down to earth with a hint of naughtiness!!!! ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Thank You for your comment artofwar. Too bad more men did not think your thought process. Peace.... ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Well, not all of us expect or want it on the first meeting, or the second and so on. Some of us just like meeting and yaking and getting to know one another and becoming friends. I know most of you will call "bullshit" on that, but perhaps some guys are actually like that. Just saying!!!!!!
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Oh i know you Nice_Slow2. You are indeed my real friend whom i am able to sit across from one another and talk about anything and everything with no expectations....except a hug as we say good bye. You dont realize just how much i appreciate your friendship. Do have a good day. Your friend.... ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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Hi MargotRegina. I am sorry this continues to happen all the time. I guess it comes with the territory. But set the bar high and never give in as well as never settle for second best. I have met a handul on this site whom have my utmost respect. ~~TheSexyTigress~~ Live Life..Laugh Often...Love Much..
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