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Blogs > ladyj_1957 > Lady J's Musings

"Big" asked why women are embarrassed by scars; this is my answer. What do you think about scars?  

ladyj_1957 66F
3233 posts
7/27/2011 4:20 am
"Big" asked why women are embarrassed by scars; this is my answer. What do you think about scars?

We are only embarrassed about them with people that make us feel imperfect with them. However, given a man that can embrace an imperfection, then a woman can relish her uniqueness.

I have a couple of scars and all of them are rather sensitive and in a sexual way, they are sensual.

Several years ago, I met another reader at a mall. We sat talking for hours in the foodcourt. He held my right hand and stroked a small scar I have on my right middle finger. It was arousing, no, it was orgasmic.

Not a fetish for me either. But Big, my scars are sensual, and I welcome interest in them by lovers.

I must have three from episiotomies. Nobody has ever mentioned them. I wonder about them, I wonder how it would feel to have my lover trace those scars slowly for an extended period of time.

Mmmmmm!!!
"Don't count the days, make the days count"
ktownbabe 52F
812 posts
7/28/2011 6:31 am

 well, i dont find scars all that sexy. well, the ones that i have i dont view them as oh so sensual and what not. and when they touch it i dont find it all that arousing. dunno. especially when my heart surgery scar is being touched, that part feels different than the rest of my regular skin. like i have lack of sensation there or something. but depending on the person in whom i maybe physical with, I DO enjoy showing them off tho. my scar from heart surgery. my scar from my knee surgery. or my scar from when i got a really bad reaction to a bug bite. and i had to see a doctor who made an incision that made all the puss oooze out. for me, its seen as kinda fun to show them off. i think it makes great conversation cuz every scar has a story behind it..
"Don't hide yourself in regret. Just love yourself and you're set."
~Lady Gaga


ladyj_1957 66F
2359 posts
7/28/2011 1:32 pm
    Quoting ktownbabe:
    well, i dont find scars all that sexy. well, the ones that i have i dont view them as oh so sensual and what not. and when they touch it i dont find it all that arousing. dunno. especially when my heart surgery scar is being touched, that part feels different than the rest of my regular skin. like i have lack of sensation there or something. but depending on the person in whom i maybe physical with, I DO enjoy showing them off tho. my scar from heart surgery. my scar from my knee surgery. or my scar from when i got a really bad reaction to a bug bite. and i had to see a doctor who made an incision that made all the puss oooze out. for me, its seen as kinda fun to show them off. i think it makes great conversation cuz every scar has a story behind it..
I find my scars to be more sensitive than regular skin in a number of ways. I had gall bladder surgery many years ago. I swore for years I could tell the weather by that scar. And it is more ticklish than the surrounding skin.

And, at five years old, I fell and had my palm stitched up. It throbs still when I open my hand up completely.
"Don't count the days, make the days count"


rm_Tinman3222 69M
224 posts
7/29/2011 12:06 pm

 I agree with ktownbabe, scars are a compendium of our life. Each has its own story. I quit counting them, but do remember how they all came about. Some are surgical, most are job related accidental in nature.
Except for my knee surgery scar they are no more or less sensitive than my skin. The knee scar is for the most part numb, 46 years after the fact.


ladyj_1957 66F
2359 posts
7/29/2011 1:00 pm

 The guy that traced my scar just wrote to me. We've kept in touch over the years and miles, but I will be honest and say I haven't been keeping up my end of the friendship this year. Suprisingly, he wrote only one sentence and it was a reference to that day. It feels like he sensed I was discussing it.
"Don't count the days, make the days count"


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