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Open Marriage  

AlmostAKeeper1 66F
416 posts
11/18/2009 8:37 am
Open Marriage

"ANY open marriage, semi or otherwise, is certainly doomed. Marriage is not, as I'm sure you now know, just about great sex or financial support or 'chemistry.' It is the deep comfort of knowing that someone loves you through and through, and that you love them back.

It is the joy of sharing your days and nights with your best friend. It is the security of knowing that, whatever the temptation, your lover will always prefer YOU to any other person.

How can someone feel special when you would rather have sex with another? How can you feel special when he would rather sleep with someone younger or built different?

'Rules' be damned -- if you want to spend the rest of your life with this man, then you must both make the decision to give each other all of your sexual attention.

There is so little that is sacred in today's society. Make your marriage sacred. Choose to set aside some part of yourself for your mate alone, not to be shared with anyone else. That is the beginning of trust".

I read this in a forum for open marriage discussions.  Seems doom and gloom to me with regards to any marriage agreements other than the way it is written in the Bible.  Is that the only way to live life with others?  I tried being in an open marriage with a couple once.  What I believed to be was certainly no where near the reality of the situation.  I find all sorts of reading material for the primary couple.  Everything under the sun for the husband and the wife.  It appears to me that the third party is truly on the outs with society.   This person is the one who supplies the sexual needs of another.  I occurs to me that if needs are being met by the primary partner, there is no need for the secondary.  Yes, the secondary, that even sounds lesser than.  Sade sings a song about a woman who "takes care of all those young men".  And yet, she is also a lesser than.  This woman who satisfied a need all humans have, that of intimacy.

Hummm  Off to find more to read about this type of relationship and to find anything that might be remotely positive about being the secondary...

rm_44doc 62M
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169 posts
11/18/2009 9:54 pm

 I have heard.... 'Sex is not love and love is not sex' One is used to convey, at times, love.. but love is far more than mere sex.

Now, I am not Mormon... but I assume that a lot depends upon the parties involved as to the success, or failure, of a relationship between 3 people...


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