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Surefire Ways to Stay Single
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Surefire Ways to Stay Single  I read with compassion and interest, a fellow blogger's plight on New Year's Eve lamenting her loneliness and inability to attract the right type of man for her. Seems this guy is only interested in random, sporadic sexual encounters but only when it's convenient for him. Something stood out like a neon sign but out of respect for this blogger, I decided to refrain from interjecting my thoughts. Notwithstanding, it is obvious that holidays can be rough for single folk. Unfortunately, we may not realize that we may be our own worst enemy when it comes to attracting men. So, here are six things women commonly do to attract the wrong type of man. Stop doing them, and you're bound to attract someone better. 1. Pretend to be someone you aren't. While you want to make a good first impression, you don't want to falsify yourself. When you give off the wrong vibe, the wrong guy will be attracted to you. When you meet someone by being yourself, you'll be able to gauge right away if the person likes you for you, and if you like him for him. 2. Ignore red flags. In hindsight, you can probably identify problems with each wrong guy you ended up with. Use this hindsight information for future partners, so you can move on much faster. The process of dating is weeding through the ones that aren't good for you to find the ones that are, so don't ignore the warning signs in the beginning. 3. Put up with too much too soon. Everyone has personality traits that annoy others, but some people have many that irritate people immensely. If you are one of those people who is incredibly annoyed by a new guy in your life, don't put up with it. All you'll do is waste time and regret that you didn't move on sooner when that person's annoyances become unbearable. 4. Hush your gut. Your gut instinct is much smarter than you believe. If you think back to some of the wrong guys in your life, how many times did you feel like something was off with them from the start? Well, that should have been your sign to get out. Start to listen to yourself more. Your gut knows who you really want in your life, and it will help you find a compatible partner if you let it. Readers, particularly men, I am curious to hear your thoughts about this. What are things that women do that turn you off? |
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4. Hush your gut. Your gut instinct is much smarter than you believe. If you think back to some of the wrong guys in your life, how many times did you feel like something was off with them from the start? Well, that should have been your sign to get out. Start to listen to yourself more. Your gut knows who you really want in your life, and it will help you find a compatible partner if you let it. I want to add "And keep listening to it even when you're *IN* a relationship" not just the beginning. Often you think you know the person, you trust him/her... then your gut starts whispering. But you KNOW him, you TRUST him... so you ignore it. Turns out my gut really is always right, and would have saved a TON of heartbreak in the long-term.
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Your list is brilliantly written, Myelin. I love it. I particularly wish that women would not do #1, pretending to be someone they aren't. I've seen a lot of relationships becomes very miserable because they started out that way. But then, all new relationships are aspirational, are they not? When we enter a new relationship we know we will become something new, at least a little bit. So perhaps that is a confusing period during which it is difficult for us to tell who and what we really are. Our self awareness may be particularly low at that time. My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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As to my personal turn offs, here are the top three: 3) Broken promises. If you promise to call, text, or friend me on Facebook then you should do it. 2) Dull conversation. I don't care how beautiful your body is, you can't seduce me with conversations about reality TV shows and celebrity gossip. There is nothing sexier than intelligence. 1) But the biggest turn off of all is histrionics. Even great intelligence and wit cannot overcome the relationship-ruining power of histrionics. A person who tries to make every conversation on every topic about themselves cannot sustain a relationship with another human being. If someone is telling a story about their trip to Spain and you feel compelled to compare it to your trip to San Diego, if someone just got the news that their daughter was accepted to Harvard and you feel compelled to tell everyone that you once met a man with a Boston accent . . . then you, yourself, might be histrionic. My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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I always listen to my gut....too many people on here are fake....to many people are dishonest.....to many want to play games....too many red flags! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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Great subject – let me see if I can add anything worthy... "What are things that women do that turn you off?" - it is all a question of degrees I think. Want to be with me as much as possible – wonderful!! “Needy”, controlling, or not trusting – SOOO not good. Smart, curious – a plus. A drama queen – much less so. While most of us adore a lady that is sexually adventurous, one that SAYS she has no limits makes you wonder if it is all just an act for our benefit. Happy New Year on HNW Too Much Those Shocking Classic Christmas Songs [post 3312759] My Private Blog – Tell me All your Secrets
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I think we all put to much pressure on our selves to fit into the norms of society. The idea of getting married or being in a serious relationship because our society says we should get married at a certain age or time of our life forces people into making big decisions that they are not ready to make. I here so many people choosing to get into a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Women wanting a man to "take care of them". What does that even mean? That is doomed for failure. A relationship is not about taking care of another person. I hear men choosing to start a relationship with a woman based on her physical appearance. Once again, a big shallow mistake. How about everyone pursuing their dreams of being the best they can be and looking for a partner to compliment them and walk side by side as they pursue their dreams and each person supports the other in that goal. Ultimately you have to ask yourself what your looking for? I believe it should be an equal partnership to enhance your life and theirs as you walk together side by side to help support each other in their personal growth. If you have expectations about what your future mate should "give you" then you may have the wrong goal from the beginning and be doomed for failure before you start.
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T^his is a good post...some women give a guy way too many chances.....you need to go by your gut feeling...I do that often myself... Click Here To Read A Hot Erotic Story: When A Woman Meets A Stranger Part 1 of 4
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In general there are not a lot of things a woman does that will turn me off. I like a strong woman on the outside that needs to become submissive at times, let herself go and be giving and dominated in all ways. This site is one where you should be able to be open and honest in whatever you are looking for, the place you can open up like no other place as this site is not judge mental and you can be yourself. We all want to be liked and loved and try very hard which is a great quality wanting to please and be liked. You also need to follow your instincts too and be honest with yourself what you are looking for and that will help lead you down the right path whatever that may be. I do like the conversatations.
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I honestly believe independence and confidence are not only 2 of the most attractive features of a woman, but they are attributes that make finding a man/woman much easier. Act like you're worth someone's time and you can weed out the people that don't value you. Not that you don't already know this  .I honestly believe men and women typically display the same annoying traits to most of us though: 1. Being too insecure. 2. Being too needy. 3. Not giving enough attention. 4. Not understanding us.
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